Wedding Commandments You Don’t Have to Follow

Traditions go hand in hand when you start talking about weddings. There are traditions which date back hundreds of years, traditions aligned with different faiths, and family traditions that you carry on through the generations. If you’re a bride in search of having a unique, personalized wedding that you create from scratch then you know how difficult it can be to break with those steadfast traditions. The wedding industry can sometimes focus on traditions a little too narrowly which makes it hard to even suggest what things you want to happen instead. Some brides feel that there’s a big book of wedding commandments you have to follow in order to appease both guests and family members. That isn’t the case. While some traditions might be hard to break, there is no rulebook you have to follow on your big day. It’s called your day for a reason. Below are some of the traditional wedding ‘commandments’ you can disregard when planning your event.

Bridal Party Fashion

It’s traditional for the bridal party to wear similar dresses on the day of your wedding. Brides usually find a flattering dress and let the bridesmaids each buy a copy. These days having an entire row of peach-colored bridesmaids wearing the exact same outfits is slowly inching out of the tradition books. Having an identical lineup is a commandment you should definitely break if you feel like it – for a number of reasons. One reason deals with money. Some of your bridesmaids might not be able to afford the dress you pick out for all of them. It can be a little awkward trying to tell the bride that the dress she has chosen is a little too expensive for your budget. It’s a tense situation that can easily be avoided. Another reason to bend on the bridesmaid rule is allowing your bridesmaids to showcase their style. Sure, your wedding dress is definitely going to outshine all of your bridesmaids on the big day. If your bridesmaids are true-blue friends then they’ll be excited to step aside and help shine the light on you. Why not give back a little and let them show off their personal styles? Sit down with your bridesmaids and let them show you what they’d like to wear. That way you can let them pick a dress in their style and on their budget while still getting your approval. It’s a win-win for all.

Fancy Cake

Let’s be honest – wedding cake isn’t all it’s cracked up to be sometimes. If you do a quick search online then you’ll often read about couples and their frustration over the wedding day cake. They tasted samples, saw what the cake would look like, and were so excited to cut the first slice! Then they tasted the cake. Wedding cakes are known to not be quite as tasty as they should be. Cake is great. For some reason when you mix it with the word wedding they can become dry and flavorless. Traditionally wedding cakes are cut at the reception and feature tier upon tier of delicate flowers or edible pearls. Having a wedding cake at your actual wedding is no longer something that must be done. More and more brides are opting to steer clear of the wedding cake altogether. If you would rather have a sweet treat without wondering if it will be dry and tasteless then don’t be afraid to go a different route. Cupcakes, cookies, and dessert bars are currently gaining momentum. It’s a great way to have a sweet treat at your wedding for less money and less worry taste-wise.

Inviting Guests ‘Just Because’

This is one commandment that might cause a lot of stir with family members or friends. But the fact of the matter is this – weddings are expensive. It doesn’t matter if you have a grand engagement or a small ceremony. Even things you thought were cheap turn out to be incredibly expensive. Renting seats, tables, and buying enough food for everyone can set your budget on fire. Guests are what make weddings an expensive affair. How can you get around inviting so many guests? By only inviting the people you truly want in attendance. It’s a novel concept for sure. Traditionally you invited guests that you didn’t really want in attendance just because that was how things went. In modern times it’s okay not to invite people you would rather not see at your wedding. Distant family members you barley see or friends you no longer talk to are probably not going to be hurt if they don’t make the cut. When you sit down to make a guest list with your partner, your focus should be on inviting people you truly want to see when you walk down the aisle.


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